Re: Order

I think you enter dangerous territory when you place value judgements on emotions...that any particular emotion is 'better' than another. What matters is what a person is truly feeling rather than what their intellect is telling them that they 'should' feel. Emotions are experienced in the body and dealing with each emotion appropriately is what is healing for that emotion. Emotions may transform into other emotions as the healing progresses.

I have seen many people stuck in anger and use it to bully other people (control?), push others away (action-oriented?) and feel a FALSE sense of strength (empowerment?). Anger can also produce a muscular armoring of the body. A person can fall into this trap with any emotion. There is nothing healing about this. In some circles this is called a 'racket' emotion because it is actually masking what the person is really feeling. This often occurs because a person does not want to appear 'weak' or vulnerable (or it could be strong and capable...depending on the emotion displayed.) You will very often find sadness or fear underneath anger...and if that emotion is not addressed, the person will often remain stuck in a cycle of anger. Similarly, a person can have fear, sadness or even 'happiness' as their fall-back emotion. In any of these cases, a person's energy becomes stuck rather than flowing freely...and stuck energy will not lead to health or happiness.

It is unfortunate that we live in a culture that considers anger an emotion of strength, and sadness or fear emotions of weakness. At our very core, we are all vulnerable. Tears can be extremely cleansing and healing to one who is experiencing hurt or sadness. The soft overcomes the hard...water wears through rock. Tweet